Stray Light Effect

Photographer Jim Urquhart

The light was beautiful and she said yes.

So it is late Monday night and I have found myself online looking for venues for my upcoming wedding. Yes, that is right, I am now engaged and in the process of getting ready to get married.

Last Thursday, May 21, 2009, Dayna, the love of my life and my best friend said, “Yes!”

Dayna and I had been talking about marriage for awhile. It came naturally. She really is the best experience that has ever happened to me. Since she came into my life I have found what it is really like to experience true happiness. She has accepted me for who I am with all my faults and I have never been so inspired to explore the world and all it’s love as I am now that she is here. When I catch a glimpse of her beautiful blue eyes I see beauty and hope reflected in the morning sunrise.

In my life I have missed the opportunity she has now presented me with. But there was always a reason deep inside that kept me from taking the step off the edge before. Then she comes into my life and shows me the possibility of true love and in my heart I know she is the one. She is why I have been struggling and pushing on. It was to find her and her love. So with that said, I had no other option but to be loved and to love.

I had originally planned to ask for her hand while we were on vacation in July on our tour of the west. But after she took care of me when I was so sick a couple weeks ago I realized I needed to do this now.

We had originally planned to have a portrait shot by my co-worker and friend Scott Sommerdorf in the weeks leading up to mother’s day as a gift to the moms but I was so sick and covered in hives from the allergic prescription drug reaction (see this post) the morning of the shoot we had to cancel it.

So with that in mind I spoke to Scott and we scheduled another shoot for last Thursday. I later called Scott and upped the importance of the shoot and explained he was going to witness a proposal. He was in. This was going to provide the cover story.


I purchased the ring on Monday night and picked it up Wednesday morning and immediately went to her dad’s house and then her mom’s house to ask for permission to marry their only daughter. They both said yes and told me that Dayna had told them she was pretty sure I was going to propose on our vacation in July. This meant she had not caught on to what the portrait shoot the next day was really about.

My friend Jim “Shorty” Patrick wanted in on the action and I needed him there. I wanted the event video taped for her to have forever. So with that, he was going to join us on the trail to Ensign Peak overlooking the valley with the story he was coming along to help pack extra flashes for Scott to light the shoot with. Luckily Dayna had no clue what was really in the pack Shorty was carrying. In it I had placed a bottle of Champagne on ice, a video camera and the ring. I placed the ring in there so she wouldn’t detect the box on me while we were hiking up.

We met Scott and Shorty near the state capitol before the shoot and then they followed Dayna and I up to the trail head. When we met, I handed Shorty the bag and said, “here are the flashes,” and Shorty sold it by complaining about having to pack them up the trail.

On the way up to the trail Scott pocketed the ring knowing he is going to be in the best position during the photo shoot to hand it off to me without her knowing.

We begin hiking the trail and find a good view to shoot the photos at and all begins as planned. Scott begins shooting portraits of us and we have a great view to enjoy. After a few minutes he approaches us and repositions us for the next set of shots. At this point, he places the ring right behind Dayna where she can’t see it and I grab it without her knowing.

We change positions again to an area where she can be standing and I can kneel when the moment is right. At his point I begin talking about my dog Gizmo and how much he would have enjoyed the trail and how he should be in the photos and how we should have brought him along. However, “Gizmo” was the code word that Shorty, Scott and I discussed would be the cue that I was about to propose and to be ready for it. I talk about my awesome dog Gizmo all the time and there was no way no one would have known what we were really talking about.

The moment was right, the light was perfect and there she was. She was there to be with me in that moment and she loves me and I love her.

My nerves are so wound up I began to shake almost uncontrollably. She is watching me and ask, “are you ok?” She can see I am really nervous about something and is worried about me. At that moment I took her hands and knelt on one knee. I speak of how much I love her and explain to her that she is the most beautiful light in this life I have ever witnessed.

In the end I ask her to marry me and without hesitation she said yes. At that moment I became the luckiest and most successful man in the world. I had found the love of my life. She is the most beautiful, most intelligent, most loving and caring woman in the world and she loves me with all her heart.

We linger and enjoy the view for awhile. Then the four of us enjoy the whole bottle of champagne and I get to enjoy the love of my life in the light of the setting sun.


I found the love my life. She loves me and she said yes.

One Response to “The light was beautiful and she said yes.”

  1. Mike Brice says:

    Congrats. This Sportsshooter member and fellow romantic loved this proposal story.

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